Hello and Welcome!
I love being single. Love it. That's not to say that I wouldn't love a relationship and/or marriage someday. However, I absolutely ADORE my life as it is right now. But in my limited explorations of the internet on the subject, people like me (who love singlehood) have not been easy to find. The vast majority of information for singles out there is all about dating, how to find a partner, how to develop a coupled relationship, and so on - in other words, it's about how NOT to be single. I have found one or two websites that do embrace the single status and have good advice for people living on their own. However, even they have slightly too much dating focus for me.
It's not that I'm against dating or anything. I see healthy relationships as a positive thing and would even consider marriage if I had a deep enough relationship with someone and really did want to be with them forever. But the media is already saturated with dating information - books, magazines, social media, dating websites... Besides, I'm no expert on dating and relationships. What I AM an expert on is living single and enjoying it. And so I wanted to share my personal take on life, from my single point of view. This isn't complaining; this is celebrating. And I believe that life is worth celebrating whether you're single, married, male, female, old, young, and anything and everything in between (plus anything else I didn't mention there).
In addition, even though this site is from a single person and largely geared toward single people, it's not JUST for single people. No matter your "relationship status," you will most likely find yourself from time to time having "alone" or what I term "solo moments" - moments when you find yourself alone or spending time with just yourself. There will be times when your partner is not home or is out of town. There will be times when you are not home or are out of town. There may even be times when you may just feel like spending time by yourself even though you have a wonderful relationship with another person. And there may be times when a relationship ends and you find yourself single again. Whether we are single or coupled, we owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to love life and to be able to be independent. It makes relationships better. Also, most of us desire friendships in addition to a coupled relationship, so I do have a "social" section on this site.
This website is for all of us. Enjoy!
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